Influencial Leadership: What top leaders do differently

April 7, 2010

If your job is to get everybody on the same page, you should at least make that page a lot easier to read.

Influencial leaders have value and clarity

  • They can clearly explain their value in 20 seconds. You have to know what people value before you can influence them. Knowledge is not enough.
  • They are able to get people to think: Teaching is not enough. Always ask questions. Good question: “Is there a question I didn’t ask today that you think I should have?”

How leaders cause their people not to think – Sometimes we’re so dominant, people just react to our behavior and don’t use common sense. They focus on what we leaders want in the moment, and not on job requirements.

Avoiding bad questions is easy; asking good questions takes effort.

  • They use the agreement formula: Ask, listen, agree, recommend. The reason this works is because people rarely disagree with their own ideas.
  • They don’t use their intelligence against themselves. It doesn’t matter how smart you are if no one knows what you’re talking about. Communication is about making sure people actually understand what they are supposed to do. It’s not just about making the information available. It’s a complete cycle.
  • They don’t show a lack of tolerance. If you are intelligent, you may lack tolerance for those who don’t understand things as well as you. If that is the case, you may be labeled a poor communicator, which robs you of influence. You are now the smartest person in the room with the least amount of influence. Congratulations!

They clearly communicate their point and don’t give mixed messages.

They avoid “jellyfish management”

  • A jellyfish manager is a leader who doesn’t stand behind company initiatives and then loses patience with his or her employees when they can’t get the job done to company specifications. A true leader does not blame those in upper management.

Effective language: “It’s definitely different but can be done. I know you can do it because I’m confident you have the skills to make it happen.

They know the perfect team is not perfect

  • The definition of a team is people who play different positions. If we all thought and believed the same way, we’d make a terrible team. A good team needs people with different schools of thought.
  • The job of a leader is to forge a team out of a diverse group of people who may not always agree. A good leader can make the peace, hold the team accountable, and make them feel valued as a unit.

They have fair partnerships that create good relationships

  • People need to know the leader is doing all they can. Employees under 30 don’t work hard if they think the boss is not working hard. Work … or look like it! It’s possible to have authority without influence.

They deal well with younger workers

  • Praise them along the way to the goal.
  • Younger generations need to know up front the consequences for ignoring policy. They need stiff guidelines, not vague warnings.  Show how their work affects the big picture of the whole company, not just their individual job.
  • Make sure that every task has a legitimate reason for existing: show the value of safety and let them know how valuable they are.
  • The worst leadership strategy you can have is wishing people were more like you.

They know how to hold people accountable

  • The best way to hold people accountable is by holding yourself accountable first in front of them. Most leaders will not readily do this, but the most effective leaders always do.
  • What to say: “Things were not optimal last week. As your leader, I’ve looked at some things I could do differently. I can attend safety meetings with you and communicate initiatives more clearly. Now let’s go around the room and talk about what else we can do differently.” People instantly become accountable when given a say.

They make good first impressions

  • What looks good instantly – People are apt to choose what looks good right off the bat.
  • Instant image impact – The most influential people make sure people believe in what they are doing before they do it
  • People don’t work for companies; they work for their direct supervisor.

They know that companies grow and they need to adjust

  • Compliance – When a company grows, the tactics have to change to fit the size of the company.
  • It’s like hunting larger prey. You need a bigger weapon. Some guns just make polar bears mad. The tactics have to fit the job.
  • Increased professionalism – If you work in the same place for a long time, you only know that culture. When the culture changes due to growth, you are required to change with it. The benchmark of a professional leader You need to tell people why they are doing something, not just what to do.

They spend time with people who can position them to succeed

  • Good leaders network with the right people and associate themselves with those who can help them succeed. If you spend all your time with people who can’t help you succeed, you don’t have time for those who can or will. Spend a lot of time with your top performers, not just your low performers.

They know how to keep and attract top performers

  • The driving force behind success – Compulsive behavior can drive successful employees. And sometimes great talent comes with great weakness. Most leaders over manage their top performers. We have to understand the best way for some people to work is by literally doing it their own proven way.
  • Your own ego issues – Don’t let your ego clash with your employees’. You might have to set strict guidelines, but you have to get out of the way and let top performers succeed. Ensure they have an effective environment.
  • Why they really leave, and why they won’t tell you – Research from Rice University showed the number one reason employees under 30 leave is because their supervisor does not pay enough attention to them and they aren’t getting sufficient feedback. Workers over 30 leave because they don’t feel valued by their coworkers or boss. People under 30 equate attention with value. As we get older, we may lose the need for attention, but we still need to feel valued.

They understand why people leave

  • Lack of leadership – People don’t really work for companies; they work for their direct supervisor.
  • The video store experiment – If a leader does not make his or her people feel valuable – if they yell or don’t show respect – once that manager isn’t looking or isn’t around to watch employee activities, productivity drops to nothing. You could have the same group of employees with different shift managers, and the employees will change their behavior based on which manager is around. The attitude of the supervisor affects the behavior of the workers.

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The REAL Truth about Change Management

January 26, 2010

Let’s get real! The main reason people don’t want to change is because no one wants to be a senior beginner.  If people believe their value or expertise will be undermined as they’re forced to adapt to the new way, resistance to change is the natural reaction.

Transition does not feel the same for everyone.
Some adapt well (but not as many as you’d think), some struggle but manage to adapt, and some lose the will to live! Several studies show that when an organization’s most talented people decide to leave, it’s during times of change. The people who are committed, naturally good at what they do, and driven compulsively to succeed have the most difficulty with change. It’s a lot easier to be totally flexible when you pretty much sucked anyway. My (melodramatic) point is that adaptability is a wonderful trait to have in an employee; it’s just not a trait you are likely to find in your superachievers.

If you hope to not alienate your superachievers (and your regular achievers) during times of change, you’ll need to make sure they feel valuable during and beyond the transition. That means the people in your organization have to be influential and not just knowledgeable about how change works. It means you’d better have their trust or be real good at rebuilding it quickly when a message like “We need to double our production with existing resources” hits the street. It means the change has to make sense to the people who can make or break your success, not just to your liquidly flexible, mediocre masses. And if you do not like what I’ve written and you are having a hard time adapting these concepts, congratulations – you’re a talented superachiever!

So what’s actually working?
Spend some time proving to your people how valuable they are during transition by making the change as easy as possible. Also, make sure the people with giant mouths in your organization who have the ear of masses know how the change will benefit them personally. You want to make sure those big mouths are flapping for you, not against you. And finally, quit using the phrase “We need to do more with less” as if it’s somehow motivational. It’s tough even for your diehard leaders to get behind that verbiage when in reality the goal of most humans is to actually do less with more! Instead, tell people the truth behind the change: “We are trying to be more profitable so we don’t have to cut your pay, which might cause you to scare off the customers!”     

Alternative truth for the politically correct 
“We are trying to be more profitable so we can afford to keep doing what’s best for the customer and our employees.”

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What’s Goin’ Down With Garrison       

Lately, my time’s been spread almost equally between delivering keynote speeches, contributing weekly to the Washington Post’s online column “On Success,” and meeting demand for my new book The Real Truth About Success. Already in its second printing, the book is now available in six languages and electronically in a Kindle version. Audio’s next! Plans are being made for distribution of the book in 20 countries! After many book signings and radio interviews, I’m glad to find out that success and truth are so universally in demand.

Thanks, everyone, for making The Real Truth About Success a success 

I’m grateful …
To my publisher, McGraw-Hill, for their hard work and guidance and making sure the book is available at all bookstores and online outlets. We are thrilled about it being a top seller – having a second printing so soon is great news!    

To the global groups who are making things happen for us. Having the book released in multiple languages is great (it looks like about 14 so far) but I’m not sure how accurately my material will translate. How exactly does one say “psychotic BS” or “jellyfish managerial style” in Korean? My agent says not to worry. She’s great, by the way; special thanks to you, Wendy. Question: When the audio version is released, will people in other countries think it’s me speaking their language? 

To Linda for making this book happen even with my crazy schedule. You are like family and a key factor in the success of the book and Wynn Solutions Team.

To Barnes & Noble and Borders bookstore personnel for coming to my speaking events and making the book available to attendees. (Special thanks to the woman in Nashville in August who worked by herself and did not panic when panic was an understandable option!)  

For the great reviews we have received from readers, media, Facebook users, Twitterers, corporations, and associations. I really appreciate all of the good feedback! And thanks also to those who have posted positive reviews at Amazon.com to help sell books online.

To the radio show hosts who’ve actually read the book before the interview. I have radio experience and know that skimming 10 minutes before the broadcast is the norm.

And finally to the all the interviewees involved in the research (even those who hung up on me!) for the valuable information you provided. This book could not happen without your willingness – to tell the real truth about success.


Influence: Getting People to Think

June 24, 2009

Influence. We all want it to some degree. Whether its influence with your boss, your employees or even your spouse, influence allows our ideas to be heard and used. But you need to know what people value before you can influence them.  By getting the other person to focus on what they value, your influence becomes more accepted, even expected.

The way to keep people focused is to get them to think, not just teach them. Teaching people is important but it only allows them to do what they’ve learned. When you get them to think they become innovative. They can improve, expand upon and create. They are not just drones who do what they are programmed to do. And you teach people to think by asking good questions.  Remember, the person asking the questions is in control of the conversation. 

     
Examples of two good questions:  

  1. Is there a question I didn’t ask you today that you think I should have?  This is a good thing to ask at the end of a conversation. It proves to person that you care and it gets them to think more deeply about what you’ve told them. It may even get them to ask the question they were afraid to ask.  
  2.  Is there a difference between what you think is important about your job and what others think is important about your job?  This type of question can help create more awareness of priorities. It allows them to see more than just their side of an issue, putting a proper perspective on the issue at hand.     

Of course, asking questions just to ask questions can backfire. It’s not only annoying, but can sometimes open you up to potentially awkward situations, eroding any credibility you had up until you unload the mother of all bad questions.

Some potentially bad questions could be:

  • Are you sure you have the smarts to do this job?
  • Are you male or female?
  • How are you still working here?
  • When’s the baby due? Oh…you’re not pregnant.
  • Is that your real hair?
  • Do you make your own clothes?

It’s easy to avoid asking bad questions, just keep your mouth shut! But asking good questions takes effort. Sometimes we like to shoot from the hip. Unfortunately that only works if you are a good shot. And even good shots miss on occasion. One of the things you can do is every time you ask a good question write it down. Start stockpiling them, store them somewhere you can review them often. Over time, you will have these great questions committed to memory.  You’ll have questions for every scenario. It takes time to build a group of good questions, but once you have them, you’ll see your influence grow.
Did we answer all your questions?   

Listening article: Listening Like a Leader – The Truth about Trust


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